3 Ways Motherhood Prepares You for Entrepreneurship
What prepared you for motherhood? Did you get any kind of specific training to become one? Can motherhood happen without any kind of training?
The majority of us became moms first and then figured our way into it. It’s an intuitive process where you learn as you go along. The only requirement if there is, to jump right into it to experience what it offers. There is no other way of doing it.
You learn and grow into the role!
Nobody is perfect and there is no right or wrong way of becoming a mom. The more you give, the more you get. There are so many similarities between motherhood and entrepreneurship that to me they seem like distant cousins.
A Little Background of My Motherhood and Entrepreneurial Journey
Now that I think about it, it’s quite amusing to think how I was scared of this whole process of being pregnant.
Four years into our marriage, we just started having conversations of growing our family. A few months later, when I actually got pregnant, I remember sitting at my doctor’s office eager to confirm the news. Expecting to hear I was pregnant but had no clue as to what that would mean. When the doctor told me I was pregnant, I smiled and asked, really?
As if reality was a lot different from what I was expecting. I remember I had to take public transit to work that day and all of a sudden I could feel this tightness in my tummy. As in I have something in my tummy now, even though I didn’t feel any different.
First few months were quite an adjustment.
No nausea, no morning sickness, nothing of that sort. But it was all about body changes. I didn’t know how to quite walk and what clothes to wear to transition well with my changing body. I became better at it, second and now third time around.
I grew up watching my parents and most of the close family having corporate success. They all earned well and held influential positions in different fields. So that was kind of what my base was. I connected with corporate success and that’s what I always aimed for; a successful career!
I was always intrigued with the idea of entrepreneurship but didn’t really feel any push or need to pursue it until I hit a major milestone in my life. I became a mom!
But I always admired the courage and fiercenesses of entrepreneurs who seemed so comfortable with taking risks and the leadership they exuded. That part of entrepreneurship always fascinated me.
How both my worlds came together
I was giving my all to my career. So much so that 3-hour commute every day didn’t deter me from perusing my dreams. Quite frankly, I was enjoying my time to myself, learning and growing my way to next level and the next one after that. It kept me focused and on my toes.
I was heading in a specific direction and there was no push or pull to be a certain way.
Yes, marriage brings with it certain expectations and responsibilities that you don’t care about so much before getting married but nothing that a regular career woman can’t handle.
But that was all about to change soon after I dived wholeheartedly into motherhood.
My mat leave with my first one ended, and it was time to go back to work again. I somehow convinced my work to start part time for a period of 3 months, which is quite rare in the industry and the organization I was working for. But I guess my goodwill and my achievements made the decision for management a lot easier.
But now the same 3-hour commute became an eyesore. Sleeping late and waking up early, started bothering me bit by bit. I tried to convince myself that I could use that commute time to catch up on my sleep or to further myself listening to personal development material. But that only worked for a while.
I somehow managed to work until my second one was born and it was time to go back to work again.
This time around, feelings of inadequacy, do it all and be all, became stronger. Every free minute I got, I found myself thinking of finding a decent way out of it. And that slowly but surely led me to the entrepreneurial path that I am on today.
Entrepreneurship declares freedom
It took me a little while to figure out what I was interested in exchanging my time for. And to change my mindset from 9 to 5 to entrepreneurship but being a mom definitely helped making that switch a lot easier.
Entrepreneurship declares freedom. I don’t necessarily agree with its claims of giving time and money freedom. In most cases, being an entrepreneur means that you have to give up more of your time without the stability of earning a regular paycheck.
But it does give you a sense of freedom in the real sense.
The very thought of working for yourself is freeing. You are not answerable to anybody but yourself. If you don’t feel like getting up in the morning sometimes, you have that luxury of choosing not to.
More you put in; the more you get out of it. No wonder why it almost becomes a preferred path for the majority of moms, after having kids.
Yes, it might almost feel impossible to notice any progress in the beginning. But if you choose to stick to it, and put in the work, no matter how little, it makes a difference! And you can establish yourself in few years.
There is no better feeling than to feel a sense of accomplishment when that happens! It feels like you won the game of life. You were successful in marrying both of your worlds together.
It’s a long-term commitment
You know how it is. Giving birth to a precious little life is just the beginning. Actual fun is in raising these beautiful human beings that we have created. It is a long term commitment.
And so is entrepreneurship. Being a mom helps in weathering that commitment. When things don’t go as planned or sometimes you even forget to plan stuff then you somehow learn to let go and plan for the next best thing.
You become more forgiving but more focused with your time. Your intentions become clearer and you learn to achieve more in less time.
You build relationships not because you need to but because it makes business more personable. It helps in building momentum and it gives your life a whole new meaning!
You have to nurture both
Usually, we hear that nurturing comes quite naturally to us women.
But It was a bit different for me. I for one haven’t been that kind for most of my life before marriage. I was always this head on focused woman that had her eyes set on achieving big goals in life.
Being with kids didn’t come naturally to me until I had my own.
I remember not having any plants in my home until a few years ago for this very reason. Because I couldn’t imagine myself watering them and looking after them every few days. I do now but it took me a while to get there.
Motherhood has been instrumental in creating that strong foundation for my entrepreneurial journey. It was one step that I am glad I took before becoming an entrepreneur.
So when I chose to walk this path of entrepreneurship, I was more prepared. I had a more relaxed attitude. I am very much focused and clear on my long term goals but my short-term goals keep evolving.
I nurture my business with love every single day and I am seeing that it has started responding to my affection like a little child reciprocates to his mother’s affection.
Every mom’s journey is different and I hope you were able to connect with parts of my story. I would love to know if motherhood prepared you for entrepreneurship OR if it was the other way around. Please share your experiences with me in the comments below!